For some time now, my spirit has been down....I've felt sad and dejected for many reasons relating to my job and how I desperately want to 'grow', decisions I've made in the past, people's inability to understand that I am not the same person I was three years ago, pressure from all angles, and more. For the umpteenth time in my life, feelings of loneliness crept back in and I was too scared to open up to anyone because i didn't want my business out there, and neither did I want to come across as being needy all the time so as expected, I bottled all my emotions and pretended I was fine when deep inside I was drowning in sorrow. Yes I do have an amazing career and I wear all the fashionable clothes and sit pretty on TV, but I still felt I wasn't doing enough, I was confused about certain decisions I had to make, whiles hurting over some reactions from some people. Funny thing is I always blamed everything but me for my challenges: the system I grew up in, etc. It wasn't until a friend sent me this note: 'You need you more than you need them, trust me,' and after I had watched a video online form Oprah Winfrey about being responsible for my life, (click on image to view video) that it dawned on me what I was doing to myself: allowing my sorrow to completely overtake me and prevent me from enjoying the blessings I had and take control of things around me for my benefit.I thought by blaming the others, the world would automatically conform to my needs and solve my situation; I was expecting that the only way my life would be better was if the situation was more convenient or if the people who were hurting me with their actions would change and help me get through my issues if they behaved properly, but boy was I wrong!!! Really think about this; if you dropped a glass plate on the kitchen floor whiles having a chat over the phone, would you expect the person you were having the conversation with to come clean up the mess? Exactly!!! I was wasting time crying over spilt milk when I had boxes of milk in the shelf and could make MORE pancakes. I wasn't taking charge of my life, I wasn't being responsible for my happiness, I was rather allowing grief to take charge over my life. How silly right?Many of us experience this regularly and I want to use my experience to let you know that its ok to grieve, its ok to feel down and sad and dejected....BUT IT'S NOT OK to allow these emotions control your life. Regardless of everything, you are still alive and you have the power to change your situation for the better. Instead of counting your losses, take full responsibility and turn them into gains. No one will do it if you don't...Take a bold step and start creating the change you long for. You and only You can make the change!